Have the Best One-Night Stand of Your Life

Sex on the beach: Why settle for the drink when you can have the real thing? Your chances of a one-night stand might increase this summer, according to a recent UK survey finding that 40 percent of women under 30 said they’ve done the deed during vacation.

This isn’t a huge surprise. Inhibitions drop when you escape business attire, Microsoft Excel, and your overbearing boss for a week. Still, I find it disconcerting that women are often judged for such encounters, and sometimes regret the decision as a result.
Consider a Durham University study in which 80 percent of men rated their feelings after a one-night stand positively, compared to only 54 percent of women. What’s more, many of the women reported feeling “used.” Not shocking when you think about it. After all, “walk of shame” usually refers to a woman.
But if both parties are consenting, what’s so shameful?

“It’s the lock and key thing,” says one of my guy friends.  “A woman who has casual sex is like a weak lock because she’ll open for anyone.” [Insert I’m-so-sick-of-this-analogy groan here.] “But a key [the man] that opens any lock is the master key.”
Translation: A woman is supposed to “stay strong” and resist temptation. And if she doesn’t? She’s flawed. Weak. (Can someone please demand a product recall on these completely inadequate locks?) Besides, should sex really be about breaking into something? (*Cough, slippery slope, cough.*)

Now, I know the majority of guys are respectful, but I’ve heard some variation of this “lock and key” analogy—even from friends, nice guys—way too many times. Not only is it a double standard, it’s stopping many of you from having truly amazing sex. Just imagine if a woman didn’t feel like she was “giving in,” doing something wrong, and actually started enjoying herself. Everyone would win.
The first step: Be respectful during your one-night stands—whether or not either of you wants a relationship. The more respectful men are, the more (and better) sex everyone will have. Here’s how.
While you’re hooking up

Be generous. No one really expects a one-night stand or first-time sex to be mind-blowing. You don’t need to be amazing—women know that there’s a lot of pressure on guys to perform—but you should try. It says that you care about her enjoyment, too . . . even if it’s only a one-time thing. Not sure where to start? Try these Simple Sex-Tips to Turn Her On.

After the act
Talk to her. I don’t mean dirty talk (unless that’s what you’re into). I’m talking about a person-to-person conversation afterward. (If you’re too tired immediately after, do it the next morning.) It doesn’t need to be “sweet nothings,” and you don’t need to ask about her hopes and dreams—just something that indicates she’s more than a means for your pleasure. Maybe even cuddle.  What not to do: Roll over afterward, then point to the door the next morning.
Think of it this way: You both shared something—whether there were emotions involved or not. Respect the moment (and her)—even if you have no intention of seeing each other again.
The next morning
Be a gentleman. You don’t necessarily need to make a gourmet breakfast and walk her home. But if it’s raining in the morning, lend her an umbrella. If she left her jacket at the bar, lend her a sweatshirt. You get the idea. Trust me, being polite isn’t going to make her want a relationship if she doesn’t want one in the first place.
Long-term
Return to normalcy. Let’s say you were friends—and you don’t want anything more or less. Behave exactly as you did before hooking up. If you Gchat her everyday at work, then Gchat her everyday at work. It’s only weird and awkward if someone makes it weird and awkward. Don’t let it be you.
You may have noticed that the foundation of some of this advice is simple consideration for another human being. (I mean, you’d probably lend an umbrella to an acquaintance if he didn’t have one, right?) See, a funny thing happens when you see the woman in your bed, not as weak lock, but as—wait for it—a woman in your bed. Respect follows without a second thought—as will better, uninhibited sex

Compliments your man wants to hear

Here's a list of things you can say to your man, to let him know that you appreciate him and that he's special.

Unlike the ones from the opposite sex, women are accustomed to receiving compliments - from the random guy at the pub to the street whistler! On the other hand, men rarely get a compliment. So fire off a meaningful compliment to your man and make way for a steaming night ahead.

Boy, you can work it!
Tell your man how awesome he is in the bedroom — this one definitely ranks at the top of his list! A guy dies to hear how good he is at the skills he works so hard to perfect.

What would I do without you?
Guys love to feel needed. Whether it is to help you understand bank work or simply open a jam jar — it is one of the greatest feelings for a man that you can't live without them. Cuddle him and tell him it would have been impossible for you to do anything without him.

Crave to spend more time with you
Sometimes you need to connect with his inner being as well. No matter how much you compliment him on his looks or his skills — your efforts will go waste if you don't let him know how much you love him and want to be with him. Tell him that it is his innate characteristics that draw you closer to him.

You are excellent at your job!
Praising your guy's brain power is a must! Every guy wants to know that he is awesome at his task. Go that extra mile and tell him how much you admire him for the way he shows his dedication and loyalty towards his work. This one will touch him...really!

You're so freaking hot!
This is one compliment that will instantly lift his spirits. Complimenting a guy on his good looks is okay, but it is a different thing altogether to tell him what makes him so desirable — serve up his accolade, gently touch his body parts to add an extra sizzle to it.

What's he thinking during sex?

There's a saying that goes like: "Women givesex to get love, while men give love to get sex". Think about it; what's on your mind when you are in bed with him... Am I hotter than his ex? 

Does he love me? Am I able to please him? But men are a different breed altogether, and they compartmentalize their needs, while women are the emotional ones and often fall weak in bed or otherwise. But it isn't difficult to decode what's going on in your man's mind while in bed. Read on to know some of the common ones.
He thinks: She's so hot! This is the first thing your partner is thinking while you unhook your bra. Madhav Singh, software engineer, 29, says, "The moment I see my wife undress, it turns me on. There is no effort required in it. It happens instantly." 
She thinks: Will he stay by my side? During sex, a woman's mind is always speeding up with lots of questions and answers. The moment a man is caressing her breasts, the thought whether he will always be with her or not is ruffling through her mind. 
He thinks : She gets it right. Men always appreciate the body language of women during sex. They feel great when you understand what he wants. Junaid Siddiqui, businessman, 35, says, "Sex gets a lot better when you know your partner understands exactly what you want in bed." 
She thinks: Have you slept with many women? Mostly, women adore men with experience. This adds up to his sensuality and expertise. However, this does not mean that she forgets thinking about how many women he's slept with. 
He thinks: She's got a nice rack - All that your man is thinking during sex is about your boobies. He's on cloud nine when he's playing with those soft moulds of yours while seeing you wanting for more. 
She thinks: Am I beautiful? - This question arises on every woman's mind with regard to every man she is with. This adds a higher notch to her confidence and makes her feel loved and desired. Rhea Ghosh, marketing professional, 31, says, "Being complimented by my a man makes me feel wanted, and that makes sex very exciting.